PAIN ADDICTS....

What's up my people ? That's a rare way for me to start my post isn't it? Well I feel different today, its been one very emotional andenlightening day for me. Wow, I had a touch from my maker and was able to weather the storm and keep going.

Now to why we are here, pain addicts.I am sure you know there are different kind of addicts such as drug addicts, sex addicts, workaholics, and the list goes on, I am here to talk about pain addicts because of something I noticed about them that has destroyed the lives of many others. Yes,these pain addicts have the ability to lead you into being like them,or loss of self-belief or some backward and depressed mode of self-motivation. Please don't be frustrated yet I would explain with this  story below. 

      " Kennet was a young Man goal driven and just a straight forward guy who was very compassionate and wanted to be the difference, wanted to stand out in everything He did. He wasn't perceived to be the best every time but was on a journey there. Had His own faults here and there but didn't hesitate to admit it,learn and move on. 

       He met Yolanda, who was also an up and coming lady too. She was bright, intelligent,pretty, good morals. She had goals that would make you look at her as though you were in a trance. Amazing zeal and commitment to goals and purpose.She had faults and was ready to correct them too.

I am sure right now you would think this too would make a great couple. Well yes, I mean the started off with a spark! Kenneth was smitten by Yolanda's existence. He was taken away He believed He had found the right one . Yolanda was also stunned by Kenneth, She liked His resolve and was ready to go around town with Kenneth and start a little relationship with Him. She believed He was just the perfect Man and started working on His flaws almost immediately. The only problem in this is Yolanda didn't know that Kenneth was a (PAIN ADDICT).

Now who is a pain addict ? A pain addict is one who is motivated by pain,stuck on pain, if there is no form of pain the person doesn't feel the urge to move or take any action. These people need there to be something wrong to feel right and so was Kenneth. He just like Yolanda, were brought up in tough circumstances, had to go through a lot of hard times before the could get to where they were and they were still on the way. Yolanda thought that Kenneth who happens to have gone through a lot of terrible things would need all the Love He can get and less nagging, quarrels,disputes and all because Kenneth was just coming off very difficult times. 

She didn't know He was a "pain addict". When everything was going well and She was there for Him and doing all the things most Men would only read in story books for Him, Kenneth felt less motivated. He was tired of all the " Lovey kush kush ". He didn't want care,affection,tender faithfulness, a warm embrace. Love for His career was not His motivation, pain was. The pain of years of shame,years of toiling, the pain of heartbreak. He was so focused on proving He was somebody that He forgot that LOVE is the real light to show the way. Yolanda was confused, She cried,was broken,she pleaded with Him to see how much Love He can get and spiritually change His story. No, not Kenneth He wanted it hard, he wanted someone to bully Him scold Him like He was a child because hatred and the tendency to want to be like others had become His motivation. He had suffered so much He was addicted to suffering. You would think that people who suffered all kind of things would want to stop suffering.He smiled a lot was a great guy on the outside but was really bitter on the inside.

SOMETIMES ITS IN THEIR SUBCONSCIOUS, they don't know it what has become of them. Now if you are married to such a person you have to help the person with Love, prayers and tell the person about "pain addiction" which is born by wrong motives and sometimes just plain hardship. You can also open a window with a better way of living and not just complain. Tell the person to let out all the pain, to tell you everything,cry it out,pray it out, and let it go forever. If not you would suffer for years with a pain addict who would make you  think you are not good enough,you are not Loving enough,but no pain is their own medicine. They are in the Church too,they want you to fast,starve,scream, all the time. They believe pain is always the way. Hold on, did Peter need to fast and pray before He walked on water ???? Did He ??? NO!! All He did was have Faith, He believed. None has done this after Him. A broken and repentant heart is better than sacrifice and that's what David thought us all. Wake up and hurt no more, the time has come for you to rise in LOVE,GOD is LOVE.

  

                                          

         I know there are many of you out there stuck in this problem,male and female. Your story might be vice-versa. This is your time to act, if the person you are planning on getting married to shows these signs work hard on it now or simply leave. There are many pain addicts, even they think they want it good but if its not hurting its not good. They say no pain no gain but you don't have to hurt all the time, you hurt, get healed and stay healed. 

GOD Bless you All

_-Shawn.