FAKE GOOD GIRLS.........

Altight, yes war against indiscipline!!loool enough is enough.   I know you can't wait to see what I have to say this time. Well I can't wait to finish writing this time. There's a song I Love to play when I mean serious business while training and I have it playing loud right now " serious stuff".   Yes, this is addressing the issue with these new generation girls putting all the blame on everyone. Saying a lot of things that have really caused me to get upset, put this post out there to allow some of these Men breathe easy.


Yes, in Nigeria its expected that you stay away from pre-marital sex and that the wedding night is the chief off all nights where the real marriage begins. Times have changed now and the trend has changed, people do not care about many of these so called values anymore. You are allowed to live anyway you like, no one should judge the other person,be true to yourself and that's what matters. I agree with some of these things to an extent but I have noticed something that has forced me to write this here tonight. 
I have attended many singles programs and have seen many girls in LAGOS, NIGERIA say

 " I don't know what wrong with these Men, they just come to you and you already know that the only thing on their minds is sex, they just look at you in such and such a way and you know it. They would say their last boyfriend who they thought was a "Christian Brother" had the same thing in His mind and they left Him because He made them have sex with them once and the regret this and that  " 

I have noticed that this particular story is very common among the "good girls". I then had to gather my team and we has a full scale investigation and we discovered a few things I would like to share with you especially for Men who have their brain working well and Women who want to learn and change.

1. Those Women have denied that they also want to have sex or that they have the urge at all. It was the Brother that just did it somehow and it wasn't rape " wow"

2. They also want to play the good girl card only because its a norm and not because that's what they want and that's why they are still at the " singles meetings" LOOOOL!

3. If they had their way and were in different locations of the world you'd see totally different individuals from the ones we see here "fake ones"

4. Its is usually when they have made all the mistakes possible that you see them analysing. They usually don't take any blame for what happens it always the Men.

Now let me tell you what really happens. ManT girls claim the want to wait till marriage, they want a good Man, good family, etc.. So they meet this guy who GOD has sent to them, a guy who has decided too wait till marriage. I tell you there are still many out there,the relationship starts and the Love starts to grow and emotions grow also. Now the Man says a lot of words to this girl who is so moved by His Love and all that she is ready to "go", she wants to "get it" but because of the norms she can not say it but its so overwhelming. The Man feels the same way but somehow is able to control Himself  which the girl likes and dislikes this at the same time. ( CONFUSION TIME) Now girls may not admit it but they like it when they are able to subdue any Man and even if you don't "do it" they like to keep the memory of being able to over power you it gives a sense of security, womanhood . From my research most Men fall for this, things get awkward and there is a split up that leaves both of them wounded for a long time and then either become wild and ready to "go" anywhere or have some deep hatred and crave solitude. On the other hand if this guy suddenly doesn't fall for this, the lady feels less  a Woman, less appealing and feels that if She couldn't make Him weak even "once" or just subdue Him and make Him come after her and have her stop the action ,He may not really Love her or be into her. She then many times "form our research" look for the "dumbest" reason in the world to break up with this Man and then end up in the singles meeting again LOOOL!!. Only to come to the meeting and say " He is too short, and I left Him for that or say He was the "one" I had sex with and I know all men are bad. She never includes all the schemes she played to check how "adored" or "appealing" she was and where it has brought her to. She blames the helpless Man, who is left in utter confusion and in the dark. If you go to most singles meetings in Lagos Nigeria, this is the story of many of the singles you would find there.

Anyone who really want to get married and be happy just does it. There is no other way it can go,but there are a lot of  "distracted singles" which I have written about and " fake good girls" out there and this has lead to more confusion. I would write abut the fake good Men soon. Till then feel free to comment  bye/adios!! " I Love my Spanish" Amor Uno.

DISTRACTED SINGLES

    

    Greetings my people " no Spanish this time lol "  Yea, I just feel the time is right for this particular post. I was going to post a comment on this later but I just thought to myself that I should let it out now. I need to go all out with this right now. I have to let it all out because I see too much emotional,heart ache and the dreaded " there is no true Love" syndrome building everywhere I turn to. The singles are either complaining about their potential partners or totally distracted.

         

          Why do we get married ? So many people get married these days without a clear cut reason in their minds as to why they are getting married. For some its pressure from the family,money,peers,etcetera. While for others its that deep crave to Love and be Loved its the feel that you need someone beside you to motivate you and you motivate her and Love Him or Her and get Love in return. The deep crave to have your own children who have your name on their note books in school,kids with your very own eyes and general likeness.

    

          However, I have noticed these days that there are so many distracted singles out there. They seem to want relationships but never seem to be in anyone. The know all the mechanics behind getting a Man or Woman, treating Her right, and all but never seem to be making any progress on that line. This led me to study the reaction I have gotten from Women who I didn't end up with and also study the case of my friends to see what is really going on. I then discovered a few things I would like to share with you today and I hope you are able to learn form these things.

       I sat with two of my friends one is still single I am also single but the third one is married now. At this time the third one was only engaged,and was having serious problems. My other friend and I told Him to dump her, who does she think she is,let her go, she's nuts, how can she talk to Him like that. My friend a (guy) listened to us (a lady) and I and did what we asked. Before morning He was begging her and we were disappointed.  We never even spoke about it till today. This happened over a year ago, but as I write this post my friend is married to that Lady living happily and is blessed with a Lovely baby girl and my other friend and I are still single (lol). His eyes were on the prize, He kept going and doesn't regret His actions.

      I was so moved by this because it seem these days at every single provocation, sign of lack,discomfort,family comment, opinion from "friends" ,relationships end like they never even started. Some ladies listen to the story of their friends courtships and want a dramatic story so they start to cause trouble in theirs just so they can have something to say. They forget the main purpose of the relationship in the first place. You hear stuff like (Playing hard to get,the thrill of the chase, the this and that) yes these things are imperative and spice things up but is that why you are here ?Are you saying you can not get married without them ?  Is that why you got into the relationship ? You may win a few battles but at the end loose the war.

    Instead of worrying first if (HE LOVES YOU AND GOD WITH ALL HIS HEART) they start to worry about the colour of the clothes on the wedding day or how the after party would be or some frivolous things that don't hold water when you turn grey. Is He principled ? Kind ? Loving ? Does He have a vision ? Is He working towards it ? Can I be a part of it ? Would He make a good Dad ? No. They bother about if their girl friends would like Him and the way He walks and if they don't there is a big problem. The distraction I have seen in singles is alarming. How can you find someone who Loves you whole heartedly and say He is broke and so you don't want Him ? Don't you know you are His riches and everything. Within a year any lady who knows her weight can make a man go from zero to hero because the motivation a woman gives to a real Man is enormous. When a distracted Woman stresses a Man and He somehow gets married to her and sees nothing but emptiness,He then says " what was I even fighting for ?" He is bored because you have killed Him before the fight started. There are more problems about the world order, what is acceptable,the economy, how to raise the kids. I also warn about " friends " please be careful about the advice you take. Please " don't sweat the small stuff" keep moving." A true friend sees the good in everything and brings out the best in the worst " -Sasha Azevedo    

   My advice, simple. Please focus on those things you need for the rest of your life and if you see a good number of them,go for it. The ones you do not see please create them. You need to focus, the world is coming to an end, there are problems all over, bad schools, cultism and other real issues that you need to work out and not this frivolous argument of where your partner is from or if He this or that. Feel free to leave your comments below. For now adios!! " a littlle Spanish please" bye! 

Dear Good Man.

Dear Good Man,

          I felt this deep urge to send this letter to you because I have an idea of what you are going through and I know how you feel. Its hard, I know but deep inside you there is a voice that knows you are tougher and can make it to the end if you don't give up.I was thinking about you good Man and I thought I should write this.


       
        I know your number one problem is how invisible you have become, the Women have prayed and fasted for you and by the Grace of GOD you showed up but somehow they did not see you. Some of you were seen but then were not felt, some spoke but were not heard,some touched but were not felt. Yes, I know how you feel. You see when JESUS CHRIST was here in the physical He faced the same challenges from His people. They need Him to do something "big" they didn't see HE was something big. You know He had to borrow a camel, they didn't realize who He was and they can not see you now.


    
           You complain about doing good and not being given credit for it or being heard at all but then the guys with the scams and tricks seem to be the most felt. Do you not remember Barabas, the one who was a known armed robber, a "correct criminal", a thief. When it was time for the people to choose between the one who only healed and said the truth to all people they didn't go for the "good guy". They went for popular opinion,what their friends would say and parents would think.

          Dear good Men, I understand you feel empty sometimes and feel like its not worth it but I tell you. The Boxer who would fight for 12 rounds trains twice as hard  for 24 rounds. The Boxers who fight for 6 rounds only train for 12 rounds, and the 4 rounder trains for 8 rounds. My point is you are going for the 12 rounder marriage, the 12 rounder business partner, the 12 rounder life style and that's why its so hard and seems like forever. But be strong and take courage because, it is written that no eye has seen nor ear heard or heart conceived the plans that GOD has for those who Love HIM and are called according to His purpose.

          I heard one of you say that they mocked you,well they mocked JESUS, they don't believe you, well they didn't believe Him, they insulted you, they spat on HIM , they killed Him but now by HIM they can't kill you. Is that not a beauty,is that not a " shot of adrenaline" into your system. Life has many twists and turns and they are sometime placed to check if you would change form after going through a sharp curve.The car that make the journey is the one that recognizes the curve, is able to maneuver its way around it and not run into it or stop moving because there is a curve ahead. The curve may slow you down for a bit but at the end you pedal down and keep going.

       One thing I can guarantee you is that at the end they would always turn back and confess that you were for real and came around.They would admit that they were blind, they were lazy and they were stubborn. You would be where you were destined to be and be grateful to GOD  that you went through it. At that time you would not be complaining like you are doing now. No, you wouldn't you would arise with Love and Joy like the a child then you really are inside.If the end is guaranteed to taste good, please hold on dear good Man.

 

        Lastly good Man, promise me this please. When they come back after all these years,weeks months,days or even decades. Please try to accommodate them,find a way to smile and share with them. Good Man,find a way to genuinely laugh because they all came together to mysteriously build your character.  Dear Good Man its said that all good things come to an end,I disagree because its always the best at the end when you leave this earth. Words, can't describe the Love an joy that's on the other side.I wish you all the best Sir.


                                                                                                              From Shawn.